There is a saying that says that nice guys (or girls) finish last. This isn't always so but sadly seems to be a more and more frequent occurrence.
It was in a moment of frustration and bewilderment that I asked a prior-nice-guy why this was.
"Because nice is dull and not exciting." he matter-of-factly replied.
I've read about playing hard-to-get, about not giving too much too soon and about keeping your deep, dark, psycho problems to yourself for a long, long time because all these things drive people away.
But being nice? As in just being friendly is dull and unexciting? Is this specific to people with various psychological disorders (Martyr syndrome, S & M fetishes, attention seekers, etc) or really to the general population? Must I become abusive and demanding and condescending and just very nasty generally to stand a chance of being liked by someone "normal"?? Where does this madness end?
Do I haul out the whips and chains (or go and buy them) or will swearing and cursing do?
Do I belittle what they love dearly or will appendages and singing do?
Do I demand to be fed peeled grapes every night while I brush my hair or will washing the dishes do?
It doesn't explain the divorce rate. If people start fighting and being exciting and interesting, surely they would stay married? Is the divorce rate so high because people are too nice to each other? Oh heaven forbid your husband or wife treats you with respect and love! Your relationship is doomed!
So, grab that rolling pin/golf club/toilet brush and work on your relationships before it's too late!
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